An Emotionally Focused Guide to Relationship Loss: Life After Love
When a cherished relationship ends, it can be excruciating for we humans. When experiencing such an immense life-event as the loss of relationship, people crave comfort and wise, well-informed guidance. This is a promise that Life After Love delivers in spades. By viewing romantic love as an attachment bond, Life After Love looks at how our attachment strategies impact how we navigate close relationships and manage the pain of breakups and loss. After all, love is love and attachment bonds are bonds of the heart, and it is agonising when they are broken. Life After Love is born from the darkness of the devastation of these precious bonds. It is born of hanging out with the pain of loss, the hurt of injustice, the despair of aloneness, and of wondering how you will ever feel happy again. It offers a hand to hold in the dark, a guiding path into and through the pain of loss, informed by attachment science and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Life After Love offers hope for recovery and growth from pain.
Reviews for Life After Love
"This is a beautifully written book that will touch your heart and lead you through the pain of loss to a new sense of balance and peace - everyone should read it"
Sue Johnson (EdD), Founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy & Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
"Who hasn't felt the crushing pain of heartache after a relationship break-up? Whether you are in the throws of a fresh break-up or are perseverating about an old flame who was "the one that got away", this book will be beacon of guidance and support.
What Clare offers is a roadmap that helps people to heal emotionally from a lost love and rebuild their lives. She brings her many years of clinical experience as a psychologist and relationship therapist to help readers gain self-awareness and insight into what makes
relationships last."
Veronica Kallos-Lilly (PhD), Director of the Vancouver Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT Trainer & Co-Author of
An Emotionally Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us
"Clare has written something extraordinary here. Since people are realising that time doesn't heal all wounds. People are seeking and needing relevant, accessible assistance that is rooted in science. Clare has written such a book. It is warm and friendly but clear and direct. Clare has applied attachment science to the experience of heartbreak in a way that is very leading edge. This book provides excellent, well-written, accessible information provided in bite-sized, digestible pieces. There is a process ahead for those of us grieving, and as she highlights at the begining, she remains with the reader throughout! I have benefitted from reading it."
Kathryn Rheem (EdD), Trainer in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Director of the Washington-Baltimore Centre for EFT & Co-Founder of the EFT Café
Clare's hope for readers of Life After Love...
"My hope for the reader is that you will feel supported in the pain that can come with the loss of a loved-one and that you will find growth and hope from those darkest of places. I bring my experience as a relationship therapist and devourer of attachment science to offer informed support and encouragement, as well as providing practical strategies to make sense of and grow from this suffering. Life After Love will help you to learn from your experiences in close relationships, to grow stronger from your suffering, and to build your ability to create the relationships you want. Life After Love will help you to create a future in which you can know and accept yourself as the perfectly imperfect human you are and create secure bonds with the special people in your life."
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Interview on "That Relationship Show"
Clare was interviewed by EFT Therapists Naomi Rather and Deborah Curtis on their popular podcast about relationships. They had a great discussion about recovery from relationship loss and how attachment science and EFT can help people to process pain and to grow stronger from suffering.
Reader Reviews
★★★★★
"Clare's words are like a warm hug and a torch to hold in the right direction when you're nursing your relationship pain, and unsure how you'll move forward.
Just as pain born in a relationship comes alive in a relationship, it can be nurtured and healed in relationship.
Clare's book is revolutionary it that is takes that additional leap from understanding what happened in your loss to finding the meaning in your loss.
It was a healing and informative experience to read her book. Highly recommend if you are going through a breakup/loss at any stage you're at. "
Jodie
★★★★★
"I loved this book because it helped me to see that love is possible after loss. Even if you've been devastated by unthinkable losses in your life, love is still possible for you-- according to Clare Rosoman and science.
Learn how to generate, protect, and find love with this gorgeous book as your guide."
Amazon Customer
★★★★★
"Based on attachment theory and empirical research, this book offers summaries that teach you how to move through post-breakup emotions and learn many valuable lessons for the future.
"Life after Love" is also worth reading for those who want to understand love from the attachment theory/secure bonding lens, especially people who value precision and relevance for learning.
You don't see this degree of quality every day, and in my opinion 'Life after Love' is worth the steep price and could make a dramatic impact on anyone's breakup recovery/learning. Highly recommended!"
Elijah Logozar
Surviving Heartbreak
View this video to hear more about the concepts from the book "An Emotionally Focused Guide to Relationship Loss: Life After Love" and how attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy can assist in recovery from the loss of important relationships.
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More about Life After Love
Clare was honored to be interviewed by Deb & Naomi on their podcast, That Relationship Show. She discussed love as an attachment bond & how to recover from loss.
Clare has presented short workshops for therapists on assisting their clients in working through the pain of relationship loss from an attachment & EFT perspective.
Workbook coming soon
Clare and her co-author Dr Kathryn Rheem have created a workbook full of reflections and exercises to help heartbroken people to process the loss of a close relationship.